A lady taking care of a man suffering from bipolar disorder.

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A lady taking care of a man suffering from bipolar disorder.

Balancing Love and Bipolar Disorder: A Journey for Couples

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Written by Bharat Hegde

Relationships, like all good things in life, take a good amount of effort and time as is. But how does one resolve issues when a partner, or both, are good people who suffer from Bipolar disorder? A person experiencing symptoms of bipolar disorder can go from a state of elevated mania to depression at the drop of a hat. Bipolar, being a serious concern, needs the right kind of treatment and intervention as well. 

Understanding Bipolar Disorder's Role in Relationships

As mentioned before, someone with bipolar disorder faces a lot of mood swings, which is naturally very difficult for them to cope with. It is also, however, quite difficult for their partners to cope with it as well. 

Adapting to Challenges and Setting Realistic Expectations

It is essential to support your partner in a way that is helpful to them. Whatever their mood state dictates, it is sometimes not the best possible option in the matter. Keeping oneself flexible and open to challenges in dealing with mania and depressive states is essential to being a support system for someone going through bipolar disorder. Keeping expectations realistic, both from your end and their end, is necessary so that healthy boundaries can be set up.  

Effective Communication Techniques for Partners

A precursor to setting boundaries is to keep your communication open and honest. Acknowledge the illness they face and assure them that you are willing to work with them to help them. It is best to acknowledge one’s difficulties when interacting with them. Clear boundaries are also essential for both partners, and expectations need to be set down from the beginning in a healthy manner. 

How can bipolar disorder affect a relationship?

Bipolar disorder effectively affects the way a person behaves, feels, and thinks. Taking care of treatment plans and learning alongside can go a long way in managing a relationship. It can affect one’s sexual relations with one’s partner, as the altered mood state (whether mania or depression) ends up with an excessive libido or a lowered libido. Self-sacrifice regularly by one of the partners, as well as an inability to understand the situation at hand, is also a problem that can crop up. 

Essential Tips for Being in Love with Someone Who Has Bipolar Disorder

All kinds of relationships take work, and a relationship with someone who has bipolar disorder is nothing different. A great partnership consists of good communication, empathy, and awareness.

Cultivating Patience and Empathy in the Relationship

As a partner, one needs to inculcate the value of patience as soon as possible, if they haven’t already. Mental health care goes a long way, and one needs to be extra careful when the partner is sometimes not in control of their mood state and can’t regulate how or what they do. Being empathetic to their needs is essential—asking them about their triggers and avoiding the things that worsen the situation is also very helpful and necessary. 

Managing Mood Variations and Behavioural Shifts

Asking the partner what to expect and then being around when mood shifts happen is a good way to learn about how they behave when the mood shifts. Keeping a keen eye on their behavior in the manic and depressive states and preparing to tackle them is a good strategy to keep in mind when dealing with a partner with bipolar disorder.

Strategies for Sustaining a Healthy and Supportive Relationship

Again, like with any other relationship, one needs to keep in mind the needs of the other, as well as oneself, when in the relationship. A good support plan is about knowing what the other partner needs and accommodating it as well. 

Prioritizing Self-Care for Both Individuals in the Relationship

Both individuals in the relationship need to be involved in self-care and be able to take care of their mental health. This strengthens their relationship as well. Some things that can be done include talking about their problems to a close one (other than the partner), getting into new hobbies, seeing a therapist, having other support systems in place, and practicing stress-relief techniques such as mindfulness and meditation. 

How can both partners practice self-care when one has bipolar disorder?

Both partners can get into some of the tips mentioned before; they don’t have to be limited to either of the partners in the relationship. Having a separate life outside of their partners is also key because it takes off a lot of stress on the partner’s side of things. If one has a self-care routine, in terms of having a different set of friends, hobbies, and interests that they can indulge in, then it makes things easier for the other partner.

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What are the signs that boundaries need to be set in a relationship with a bipolar partner?

Boundaries in all kinds of relationships are important, including relationships. It involves a lot of looking inward. One must examine what it is that needs to be checked, areas in one’s life where one feels drained—those are the places where one needs to be attentive. Consider the people in your life who you have a hard time saying ‘no’, and why that is. What is it that you’re not willing to lose out on?

Treatment and Management For Bipolar Disorder

Treatment is best prescribed by a psychiatrist and other related healthcare professionals, such as a psychologist and a nurse. It usually involves medicines to balance one’s moods—treatment that needs to continue for a good amount of time so that it shows a difference. Bipolar disorder requires lifelong treatment, and therapy may also be recommended. 

Embracing Hope and Resilience: The Path Forward in Love and Bipolar Disorder

When any situation within such a relationship seems overwhelming, take a step back. Remember that it is the illness that makes your partner behave in such a manner, and it is not who they are. Recall your love for them during the trying times. Loving someone with bipolar disorder certainly has a fair share of them. But with love, communication, collaboration, and determination, people with bipolar disorder can have healthy and fulfilling relationships.

If you are searching for a solution to your problem, Cadabam’s Rehabilitation Centre can help you with its team of specialized experts. We have been helping thousands of people live healthier and happier lives for 30+ years. We leverage evidence-based approaches and holistic treatment methods to help individuals effectively manage their Love and Bipolar Disorder. Get in touch with us today. You can call us at +91 96111 94949.

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FAQ

What are the signs that boundaries need to be set in a relationship with a bipolar partner?

One needs to identify if one feels exhausted, drained, or inadequate with their partners. If so, the question of what is feared to be lost needs to be asked as well. Balance is needed when these feelings occur. 

What role does professional counseling play in managing bipolar disorder in relationships?

Professional counseling plays a great role in managing bipolar disorder, along with medicines. Therapy is an added layer to the treatment plan for most cases of bipolar disorder.

How can both partners practice self-care when one has bipolar disorder?

Some things that can be done include talking about their problems to a close one (other than the partner), getting into new hobbies, seeing a therapist, having other support systems in place, and practicing stress-relief techniques such as mindfulness and meditation.

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