Making the right beginning…
After a joyous event that you and your family have experienced, it is not uncommon for one to experience an emotional low. These baby blues or mood swings are the least severe form of postpartum depression. Here are a few do’s and don’t’s for you to start right and cope better.
- Give yourself sometime: Especially for first time mothers, take each day as it comes. There will be a lot of anxiety that you may feel whether you are doing the right things for the baby. Take each day and every little thing as learning and enjoy the journey of motherhood.
- Confide in someone:At this juncture you are dealing with a lot of changes both inside (hormonal changes) and outside (motherhood) of you. Give yourself space to confide in someone with whom you can be open and share your feelings and experiences. This is one of the best ways to cope with the sadness you are struggling with.
- Enjoy the experience of motherhood:Becoming a mother is a magical journey. As your child is growing and learning each day, so are you. Make the most of it and enjoy being a mother as there is no feeling close to that.
- Maintain a journal: Keep a journal where you can pen down your thoughts, feelings and experience is a good way to help yourself deal with the changes.
- Listen to the thousand advices you get: You learn the most from the experience of another person. However, motherhood is a very personalized journey and each child is different. Follow your gut and your instinct of what you want for your child. Listen to the many advices, thank them for it and follow what you think is right for your baby.
- Try to be a supermom:A very high benchmark is set for the mothers. Mothers are selfless, their entire focus has to be on their baby, they can multitask beautifully and handle everything. Keep reminding yourself, motherhood is a new experience for you. Don’t pressurize yourself to be perfect. And give yourself that space to explore and enjoy the journey.
- Feel guilty: There can be a variety of reasons you can feel guilty about. From not knowing whether you are doing the best for your child to the slightest of the thought you get. Be yourself, accept the new changes (both good and bad) and live each day beautifully.
You must remember that you are not alone. Approximately 70-80% of all new mothers experience some negative feelings or mood swings after the birth of their baby. If you are finding it difficult to cope with the negative feelings, don’t hesitate to seek professional help.
Symptoms of Baby Blues:
- Crying for no apparent reason
- Mood changes
- Poor concentration