Family is considered the societal backbone and pivotal for the holistic development of a child. A congenial environment at home, well-placed harmony among the family members, (especially between the parents) helps a child to have a fulfilling, and development-friendly childhood. On the other hand, a distressing environment at home can be highly toxic for the child, and in most scenarios have a spill-over effect on the child. There is a high chance that the child grows up to be socially withdrawn, has difficulty in establishing interpersonal relationships, may even exude abusive behavioral patterns.
It is evident that marital discord must be efficiently and on-time addressed. However, the question remains the same – how. There are very few marriages, where the couples claim to never have a fight. While these mere and chance fights are quite common throughout the married life, toxic fights that comprise violence and abusive behavior are detrimental not only for the couples, but for their family members as well. Additionally, children in the family end up bearing the brunt of it all. To keep this scenario at bay, we will have to identify and understand some of the key causes of marital discord.
Just like every individual, every marriage is unique. Each couple has its own set of fundamental principles, and perspectives about their relationship, and how they plan to get older together. Though this is an ideal expectation, things do not pan out as planned at times.
Here are some of the common causes of marital discord
Family is supposed to be the strength and the rock for children. However, a distressed family environment, especially with troubled parental relationships makes the children most vulnerable. They are highly susceptible to intense physical, social, and emotional changes; such parental discord may shape up their entire future irrevocably.
Children with dysfunctional family history often tend to be skittish at relationships during their adult life. The faulty patterns imbibed from their childhood may make them exhibit such behaviors and actions in the future also, which again leads to marital discord. Children with intense parental discord may even drop out of formal education, have fewer employment opportunities, may engage in criminal actions. In the worst-case scenarios, they may have acute mental health-related challenges.
Having a quarreling parent at home can be quite toxic, and traumatic for the children. Children come with infinite possibilities and talents that may go unnoticed, or unattended in the cases of marital dysfunction. Cadabams believes that every child has the right to lead a good quality, happy, healthy, and productive life. The highly coveted team of psychiatrists, psychologists, and behavioral physiotherapists at Cadabams go the extra mile to ensure that every child has a safe, and nurturing childhood.
They work towards bringing joy back in the life of children who are exposed to parental disharmony at home with a wide range of therapeutic interventions. Some of the key ones are CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), Play Therapy, Family Therapy, etc.
With CBT, the team at Cadabams ensures that proper behavioral patterns, positive thinking, a productive perspective on life are instilled in children. With cognitive training, they are convinced that they are not responsible for their parents’ fall-out, and despite all this, they can have a happy relationship with their parents as individuals, if not as a family.
Family therapy techniques go a long way in ensuring better harmony among the parents, and the child. These help them to come together, resolve disagreements, speak up their mind, put forth their opinion, etc.
Here are some of the key aspects to be ensured to avoid marital, and parental discord.
What are some of the common causes of marital discord?
Some of the common causes of marital discord are financial issues, lack of intimacy, uneven familial responsibility distribution, poor communication between the partners, infidelity, inconsistent religious beliefs, trauma, etc.
At what age does marital discord impact the child the most?
Irrespective of the age, marital discord has lasting negative implications for the child’s overall growth, and development. To be specific, children between the age of 5 to 12 are highly impressionable, and during this period any marital disharmony between the parents have negative influences. The child may get confused, may even blame himself for the issues at home, may feel responsible, may be forced to choose between the parents, etc.