Job P. J.
Alcoholism is a family disease which affects not only the alcoholic but also each and every member in the family who stays with him. It affects the children with the same intensity with which it affects the spouse, infact even more.
One in four children in our country is exposed to alcoholism and drug addiction in the family. This means that in your house, your neighbourhood or among your children’s friends one in four might be hiding their embarrassment, confusion, hurt or shame about what’s going on at home.
When does a child lose his childhood? When he lives with an alcoholic parent; to others he looks like any other child, dresses like any other child and walk about like any other child. Until they get close enough to notice that edge of sadness in his eyes, or the worried look on his brow.
He behaves like a child but he is not really enjoying, he just carries on. He does not have the same spontaneity that other kids have; but nobody really notice it. Even if they do they probably do not understand it.
The fact remains that he never feels like a child. He has never known what a child feels like. Any normal child is an innocent, beautiful, delicate being bubbling with energy, offering and receiving love easily, playful, doing work for approval or for reward, but always doing as little as necessary. The most important fact is that he is always carefree.
In contrast, the child of an alcoholic is not a carefree little one. He is often a withdrawn child who never gives trouble to anybody. He hides himself in a corner. Though he does not really want to be hiding, he always instantly hides in a shell, hoping to be noticed sometimes by the others. But he is powerless to do anything about it.
Children in family with alcoholism syndrome are generally ignored because all the attention is directed either towards the alcoholic parent or towards his alcoholism. The self-centered, uncooperative, destructive behaviour of the alcoholic gains all the attention that the child longed for. At the same time the child learns not to rock the bout, not to develop any desires or needs, not to make demands.
Children of alcoholic as a group, have a higher incidence of emotional problem like anxiety, stress and depression. They also have lots of school problem such as difficulty in concentration and conduct problems. They experience all sort of adjustment problems.
Children of alcoholics shows an increased predisposition of alcohol or other drugs when they enter adulthood.
Children who live with alcoholism or drug addiction need models of what a happy home looks and feels like; so that they will have something to look forward to. They need to spent time not worrying about their parents and what might be going on their houses that is going to hurt blow up or disintegrate. They need to be around peaceful rhythms and routines.
These four simple questions have been thought and carved out very carefully. They compose to be very important building blocks of addiction. Each affirmative response….
It is important for family members, friends and caregivers, to speak up and spread the awareness and change the overall perception of the illness which………..
Whether you are working to maintain your sobriety after quitting drugs or alcohol, or if you are trying to help a friend or family member avoid substance………..
It was my failure to accept reality that caused much heartache and grief to my family. They were struggling with my problem; there was a desperation and hopelessness………..
One needs to have a firsthand experience to understand how it affects the family more than the person suffering from the disorder………..
Once this condition is detected, however, it can generally be disruptive to families; the members of the family constantly keep searching for someone……….
Family usually takes time to accept the fact that their dream has been shattered. Once they accept it they may go through turmoil of emotion like guilt, regret, sadness etc…….
Clearly, drug abuse impacts women dually, male drug abuse creates enormous burden for the affected women and drug abuse per se has……..
Taking care of a family member especially as parent a person with intellectual and developmental disability is in itself challenging enough.
The best emergency plan for a family member with schizophrenia should have a list of contact details of doctors, and therapists, address……..
If a family member or someone close to you has schizophrenia, you may be struggling with any number of difficult emotions, including fear……..
An individual who has a family member with a bipolar history is likely to higher chances of developing the disorder. Do you know……..
When a friend or a family member would come to you to discuss an issue they are having, we are ready (always) to dispense……..
At one point of time the family member also get frustrated and fails to hear their problems. They feel ‘nobody understands……..
An alcoholic usually has an unpredictable behavior. An alcoholic often repents for what went on the previous day when they had drunk……..