What are addiction treatment p...

We at Cadabams provide a wide range of services when it comes to addiction related mental health problems. Addiction is a serious mental condition that is complex and often chronic in nature. It affects the functioning and the constitution of the brain and body. Addiction has serious repercussions on relationships, families, schools, work life and […]

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Is Manic Depression Genetic/ H...

Research and studies indicate that bipolar disorder also known as manic depression share a genetic component. The disorder has a higher risk of being diagnosed in an individual if the disorder is/was prevalent in the individual’s family members. However, the mental illness is mainly triggered and shows an onset post a stressful life event. The […]

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Drug Abuse Rehabilitation

Drug abuse causes drug addiction; it is a chronic disease characterized by compulsive need to seek drug irrespective of its harmful effects. It causes lasting changes in the brain. In order to recover and undo effects of drug the individual and his family members must undertake rehabilitative measures. Rehabilitation helps encourage the addicted individual to: […]

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Manic Depressive Disorder

We all experience our share of ups and downs but with manic depression one experiences these highs and lows quite intensely, affecting one’s job and school performance, personal relationships, and altogether disrupting one’s daily living. Bipolar disorder was formerly known as manic depressive disorder. It is serious mood disorder marked by abnormal levels of mania […]

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Manic Depression Symptoms

We all have our bad day where everything seems to get on our nerves and good days where even the devil cannot stop you. But when do these mood states become a disorder? Like manic depression, also known as bipolar, most of the mental disorders can be confusing and difficult to identify as their symptoms […]

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Children Caught in Marital Discord: Handle with Extra Care

marital discord-01“Marriages are made in heaven,” goes the popular saying. But ironically, in courts, marriages are broken on earth, almost on a daily basis. The reasons could be anything varying from personal ego clashes to incompatibility among couples. Whatever might be the cause of a marital discord, the worst sufferer is always a child.

Immediate fall out

An immediate fall out of a broken marriage is  disintegration of family as a social unit. It has a debilitating impact especially on children. In most cases, it leaves a scar in the child’s mind that takes a long time to heal, and sometimes it remains with him through the better part of his active life.

As a matter of moral obligation, it, thus, becomes incumbent upon the estranged husband and wife to make the entire separation process less painful for the child and transition a smoother one. This can be done by following a set of dos and don’ts:

What to do?

  • A message should go to each child that he or she is not responsible for the separation and that both parents will always love them as before
  • Need to be positive about the child’s relationship with the new parent and support the same
  • Need to tell the child clearly when he or she will get to see the absent parent
  • Instill a sense of confidence among the children that despite separation they can always depend on you
  • Need to be watchful of the child’s presence while discussing your case with your attorney or friends over phone
  • Need to behave rationally and reasonably to convey the message to the child that decision to separate is well thought out and carefully taken
  • Need to set up a roomfor the child with exclusive cupboards or drawers to keep their toys, clothes, books, etc. at visiting parent’s home
  • Need to maintain regular telephone contact with the child
  • Need to be at home to have the child ready on time for visitation
  • Need to be present on time at the point of visitation to receive the child

What not to do?

  • Avoid getting into an argument before the child
  • Avoid making derogatory remarks about the other parent
  • Never force the child to give out information about the other parent
  • Never use the child to carry angry messages, back and forth
  • Never ask the child as to with whom they want to live
  • Never ask the child to keep a secret from the other parent
  • Never show a sad face when the child leaves to see the other parent
  • Never introduce your child to your new partneruntil the child has adjusted to your separation
  • Never bring the child to court or to your lawyer’s office

Expert’s view

Researchers Paul Amato and Alan Booth observe that children who have been witness to intense discord during pre and post-divorce phases are likely to:

  • Face more difficulties in dating
  • Be less happy
  • Be less interactive
  • Face more conflict in marriage

“Incidences of divorce are likely to be more among children whose parents have experienced high degree of marital discord”, says Paul Amato.

Cadabam’s Group has over 23 years of experience in treating people suffering from mental illness. Its team of psychiatrists, psychologists and healthcare professionals have the experience to diagnose and treat mental illness. For any help related to mental illness, you can reach out to: +91-97414-76476 or visit: www.cadabamshospitals.com

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